Sex workers are just consultants
by mazuba mwiinga
So interesting isn’t to see how
the blame for men’s promiscuity and irresponsibility in their homes being put
on the presence of sex workers in our townships. Isn’t this a total sign of the
highest hypocrisy among our township dwellers?
The lives we lead are as a result
of the choices we make and not the chances we take. Each one of us was born
free of discrimination; free of slavery and free of being forced to do that
which they don’t want to; this is largely because God created man under the
natural law of ‘free will’; the free will to choose his or her path in life;
free will to choose the either end of the spectrum of society. Some choose to
take things that do not belong to them and society labels them as ‘thieves’.
Some choose to be single and have sex with multiple partners for the pleasure
of it and society labels them as, ‘Casanovas’ or prostitutes. Some women and men choose to be single and
exchange sexual intercourse with men and women for money or material things and
we call them sex workers.
And here a question begs for
answers; if these exposed women are called sex workers, should we then blame
them for offering a service to a customer who wants it? When have we ever
blamed a shop keeper for selling us groceries as a reason for our having no
money in our homes or bank accounts?
These women are workers just like
any other worker we know of in the country. They are in consultancy business
just like any consultant; meaning that they have skills that many married women
do not have. And any consultant will tell you that, never do they force their
clients to access their services. The only thing they do is advertise their
presence so that they are known. What happens next is none of their business,
as long as they satisfy their clients with their services.
These innocent women do not at
any time follow their clients in their homes and ask for sex in exchange for
money. They are found in lodges, hotels and some first class ones do their
trade in their cozy residences. Men and I repeat men; most of them married, are
the ones who follow these women to pay for sex; and I ask why do they leave
their homes and their wives and go for these sex workers? This is the cardinal
question these married women should find a correct answer to.
We have a lot of companies in
this country who still hire consultants to do certain activities for them, yet
they have workers who are supposed to do these activities; and any good human
resources personnel will tell you that, this happens in situations where this
company’s workforce is full of personnel who are not skilled in the particular
services that are supposed to be performed, or its works are incompetent, or
lazy, or are non-performers or ineffective and inefficient or are just amateurs
who need more training to be professional at their job.
Our beautiful and lovely sex
workers should be left alone because they do not force any man to sleep with
them. These women have continued plying their trade because there is a high
availability of customers. If men stopped going to these women, what do you
think will happen? They definitely will leave the places where they are and do
business elsewhere, or they will change their career focus to something else
because they are not prostitutes but sex workers. They offer sex in exchange
for money or material things, and not just having sex for the pleasure of it as
a prostitute does. A prostitute has an insatiable appetite for sex hence
getting it from any man at any time in exchange for nothing. A sex worker does
it because she wants food on the table or money to send children to school or
clothes to put on among other basic human needs.
So my advice to these cry baby
women who think their marriages are on rocks because of these sex workers, they
are just lying to themselves because the main problem is either in them as
women and wives or is in their men or husbands and not in these sex workers.
Even if we have to chase all the sex workers in these compounds successfully,
the problems in their marriages will not end. It takes two to tangle.
Without
men in the vicinity, these sex workers can’t exist too. They are just mere
consultants ready to offer a service to a hungry client. Therefore married
women should not hide their failure to look after their homes behind the
presence of these sex workers.
